Let them theory

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“Let them theory” I have not read this book, but I do know the abstract meaning of it, do not let anyone's opinion, drama , decisions, actions, comments, anything impact “your” life.

I am someone who can panic over small things, and be angry with you for that but I realise I stay calm over those situations which crushed at one point when I imagined about it.

Till which point , we should let them? My father is one of the believers of let them theory, I don't know if he has read that book, but surely his actions do follow the books conclusion.

But I have seen my father suffer because of it. He may never admit, but I have seen his eyes carrying so much pain because of his own people comments, actions and opinions. I have seen my mother suffering because of his let them do whatever they want. My mother is complete opposite of that, she will fight back the moment you cross her. So till which point which should let people cross or push our boundaries, and let yourself and others around suffer because of it? Does not “letting them” making you suffer ? Does really “ I don't care mindset “ helps? Because somewhere at somepoint , those commnets,actions will hunt you down if you do not address them. My father has suffered the most because of his mindset, he may sure have gotten peace for that moment but I do believe he must have stay awake that night thinking why his own family didn't want him happy? My father loves his mother too much But for what I see his mother does love him, but she likes him only when he walks on her path, he knows what his mother is wanting and demanding but he let it go because apparently he says “his mother has suffered so much for the 9 months carrying him” so he should pay her back? Pay her back while slowly loosing himself inside? Really? But again his let them theory is the reason he has suffered so much. If only one time he had stopped and took his stand and his wife, I do know that he may have been in the better place.

In my life, I do try to apply let them theory, but till which level can I let them push my boundaries , I do know the moment you stop caring, about it, it disappers but does it disappear completely? My emotions can be really easily suppressed or am I just becoming numb? I don't know if I should let them or just react the way I want? I don't say that let them theory is not applicable, it is but what if its your own mother? Brother? Family? Friends at some point?

Do I let them ? “Let them” is applicable to things that are not in your control, yet the constant hammering of someone, can be stopped by once you take a stand for yourself, and make them realize what they are doing and setting a visible boundary and not the one you formed in your mind. It may not affect you, but people around you who love you don't want to see someone constant hammering you and bleeding the blood only they can see.

I know for sure,one day, I will pay back all my father's debt in any form to all the people, who is making him suffer,letting him be awake at night,the constant hammering will be broken by me one day.

Thank you.

(My English is lil bad,sorry for mistakes)